What are your excuses are really saying?
As soon as you are faced with an obstacle, do you get to work trying to
find the solution or give an excuse instead?
If yes, the excuse you tell yourself can be viewed as you not really being honest
with yourself and are attempting to cover-up or ignore the situation that you are
unwilling to face and take action.
Are your excuses an attempt to justify your lack of
action or unsatisfactory results action?
Recognizing that you are trying to cover up something and the reason why can be freeing and move you to open your eyes to the possibilities of creating new thoughts, new beliefs and consequently new action habits.
Recognizing that you are trying to cover up something and the reason why can be freeing and move you to open your eyes to the possibilities of creating new thoughts, new beliefs and consequently new action habits.
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There may be valid reasons indeed for you being able to do certain
things.
Excuses are used when you really could do something, but chose not to through choice whether to reduce your guilt or blame. Whichever reason, by being more concious of when you use excuses is great because your excuses and their results expose your current mindset.
Excuses are used when you really could do something, but chose not to through choice whether to reduce your guilt or blame. Whichever reason, by being more concious of when you use excuses is great because your excuses and their results expose your current mindset.
Listen to almost
any conversation around you and those you are in and you'll pick up an excuse or two somewhere woven into the reasons given why the request cannot be completed.
WHAT IS AN EXCUSE THOUGH?
When you use one, as said in the introductory, are you attempting to explain away a reason why there is inaction on your part or is it because you don't want to upset someone rather than tell them the truth?
For example:
For example:
- Don't want to meaning I could however choose not to.
- I don't have enough money meaning I rather spend it on playing the lotto or something more pleasurable for me.
- I don't know how to get started meaning I don't like to think for myself.
- I don't have enough time meaning I want it done for me by you or someone else or I don't want to learn or educate myself.
- Etc etc
Whatever your excuse you can bet that there is one underlying important factor (to you) somewhere that
is preventing you from reaching your goal because that factor is perceived more important than your goal.
We all have goals.
Even once you reach your ultimate lifestyle, you’ll just (without realising it) have new goals. Have you heard the term 'moved the goal post'? Therefore, thinking and postponing your happiness with thoughts of “oh, I’ll be happy and fulfilled when ____________ {insert happiness condition ie I am making a $30,000 a month}" can be seen as excuse side stepping.
Even once you reach your ultimate lifestyle, you’ll just (without realising it) have new goals. Have you heard the term 'moved the goal post'? Therefore, thinking and postponing your happiness with thoughts of “oh, I’ll be happy and fulfilled when ____________ {insert happiness condition ie I am making a $30,000 a month}" can be seen as excuse side stepping.
So thinking about what you have just read, what is the one important factor (reason) why you haven’t achieved your goal yet?
Look at it and decide what is more important - the goal achievement or the reason?
There is a phase best associated with Tony Robbins why people give excuses and it is: 'Your PAIN or PLEASURE is not big enough'. (I gotta give him thanks for introducing me to those concepts and more…)
Look at it and decide what is more important - the goal achievement or the reason?
There is a phase best associated with Tony Robbins why people give excuses and it is: 'Your PAIN or PLEASURE is not big enough'. (I gotta give him thanks for introducing me to those concepts and more…)
Your inaction can be seen as the pain or the pleasure that your goal would yield is obviously not great enough to push you. It is one of the major reasons why people are as far away from their end goal than they will ever be for years.
Unless a reason is big enough to push you to change, (hopefully after reading the Excuses chapter in my book you've noticed that you are taking more action), your excuses will remain your friend and keep you stuck.
You can make that change starting today and turn things around when you stop making anymore excuses related to your set goal.
If seeking more inspiring stories - with no excuses in sight - check out these recommended books.
Do you realise though that excuses are non-productive?
When you really want something, you will find a way not an excuse.
If seeking more inspiring stories - with no excuses in sight - check out these recommended books.
RECOMMEND BOOKS
This book is about Kyle Maynard a guy born with the quadramembral phocomelia condition meaning he
is a congenital amputee. He has no hands because his arms end where his elbows would be and
his legs end at his knees and yet he has won 36 wrestling matches and in January 2012, climbed Mount Kilimanjaro without
assistance.
Prepare to be amazed and inspired.
Everytime I see this man's name, T. Harv Eker I laugh out loud with memories of him being the author of one the first books to reveal how restrictive I had being mentally.
He shows, and demonstrates, how your childhood, your family experiences
and inner mental attitudes went into shaping your view of money and more.
An eyeopening read for sure.
23 very well-known people such as Benjamin Zephaniah, Zoe Wanamaker CBE, Sir
Richard Branson, talk about how dyslexia
affected their childhood.
They also reveal how they were able to overcome that challenge to achieve great success in life.
OneMinuteMillionaire
This really is a gripping story of lady called Michelle, who is a widowed mother, and unless she raises a million dollars in a specified short
timeframe, will lose custody of
her children.
Be warned that the book is really two books in one. The right hand pages is the story whilst the left hand pages are the steps that she proposes to do to achieve her goal or lose her children forever.
Another well recommended book.
Reading these books you'll be asking yourself: do you
really need your excuses anymore compared to what others have achieved by not having any excuses?
Remember when you REALLY want to do something, you
will always find a way - not an excuse.
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As usual, hoping you enjoyed this latest read and talk again soon in my next email.
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